Hi CatWink,
A lot of this (especially pendants and earrings) is simply personal preference. There are so many other variables (strength, shrinkage, design style, etc.), that it's hard to give a reliable list for each category of jewelry. I strongly recommend picking up a couple of
metal clay books, to see what they recommend for various specific projects.
We do have some tools to help roll thin items out to consistent thicknesses:
#87-054 graduated slat sets. (Click on the image, to see a chart of each color's thickness.)